Wednesday, June 30, 2010


As the title may suggest, this is a part vent post.

Awhile back, I mentioned a vent about Facebook here. Well today I will touch on that. Don't worry... I will get to Alice's 10 Month Post later today or tomorrow.

Do you have friends on FB that annoy you? I only ask this because there are two "friends" (and I say that b/c neither of them are really friends; more like acquaintances) that annoy the utter hell out of me. Seriously. One gal... all she ever says in her comments to me are "awwww. LOL." or "awww" or "hehe". Seriously? Is that all you have to say? And my sister can vouch for this b/c she asked me what was up with her. Another gal, whom I went to high school with, is just SOOOOOO negative. Don't get me wrong, I can be a negative person. I vent (I am now!). But I also have positive and fun things to talk about. This gal is always, always, always cussing out her ex and his girlfriend. She is always posting about not being able to get over him. And then goes back to cussing him out. And occasionally there will be a cute update about her son or daughter...but immediately afterwards, it is all volatile again. Seriously? Get some therapy. I (and I'm assuming every other one of your "friends") am not your therapist. Why I haven't de-friended them yet, I do not know. Other than, they don't really deserve it. Perhaps I secretly love their stupidity.

The one gal that I did de-friend (and wrote about in that post) really deserved it. She was a former co-worker. I only "friended" her because all of my co-workers wanted to see pictures of Alice when she was born. Of course, I only friended a few of them. First, some background...

I never really liked this gal. Something about her just rubbed me the wrong way, but I figured it was because I was pregnant most of the time I had known her. Though my sister will disagree with that, as I was WAY nicer than I ever was when I was pregnant. I was a HAPPY pregnant woman. If I could just always be pregnant (and only the second trimester) for the rest of my life... but I digress. After Alice was born, I posted something about how painful it was to watch her get her immunizations. I know all of you moms out there know what I'm talking about. Well she posts something along the lines of "That is what I deserve for giving her Satan's shots" or something like that. Her youngest son (part of a set of twins-boy/girl) has autism. And she is part of the population that autism is caused by immunizations. No, I'm not going to get in to that. If you believe that, then you are entitled to do so. So she had already upset me.

Fast forward a few months... I return to work, to find out she has quit! YAY! So I forget that she is one of my friends. Well my supervisor (and this is a whole different post for another day~trust me this one is GREAT!) found out her husband had been cheating on her (this is like the umpteenth time it has happened since I have known her for 7+ years). Ironically enough, there was also another lady who works in the building (whom I consider a co-worker as I've known her almost 10 years) whose husband also cheated on her (for the second time). Well, I put up an update on FB asking what you would do if your spouse cheated on you multiple times; and the only clarification I put was that it wasn't Sean or myself. Well, along comes this gal posting a comment about "Shame on you. You need to worry about your own husband and quit publishing that girl's private life on the Internet. Clean your hands of the devil. She has done nothing to you. She has always kept all of our private information confidential..." and probably some more stuff. Well, that pissed me off. First off, how presumptuous of her to assume I was talking about our supervisor. Second, how is asking a question (with NO ONE being named or detailed) doing the devil's work? And FINALLY, that gal whom "we trusted with private details of our lives and who keeps it all confidential"... HAHAHA! Everything... and I do mean EVERYTHING, that anyone has told her in confidence, she has told me and my other co-worker. EVERYTHING! I know that this gal was cheating on her husband, and that is why they split. I know that she had ovarian cancer and had surgery to remove it when she was off work for 6 or so weeks. I know every small detail about everyone's lives in this office. There are no secrets, if you tell our supervisor. In fact, if there is something I want to keep in confidence (and I have to tell someone at work) I tell my co-worker. She is the only person who will keep her mouth shut... with the exception of our male part-timer (but he probably didn't want to know when I first found out I was pregnant). So what did I do? I sent her back an equally haughty comment, and told her all of the stuff that I just wrote, plus something about if she was such a "Christian" then why was she judging me. And then I defriended her. Who needs haughty, holier-than-thou "friends" who only write negative comments about my hands doing the devil's work? Not I. I am just suprised that she didn't get our supervisor in trouble, since I knew all of these private, confidential things that she told our GREAT supervisor. (I think I threw up in my mouth when I wrote that)

And that folks, is my vent about Facebook. Have you de-friended anyone? Would you ever leave comments like that on someone's page? I know I wouldn't. I don't leave any comment, anywhere, that I wouldn't like to receive myself. And if that means that I have to disagree with you (albeit politely) I will.


HereWeGoAJen said...

That's what I use that nice little Hide button for in Facebook. You don't have to actively defriend people, but you don't have to look at their statuses either. Although, that won't help with the woman commenting on your status. I think you can hide yourself from her.

Danifred said...

I like to hide some of my own things from people. Once people start commenting constantly they go on probation and get blocked from seeing my wall (and my status updates). Once in a while I'll give them another chance, and then wham-o, deleted.
It makes me crazy that so many adults act like juveniles because they can hide behind the internet.

Megan said...

It is def. ok to vent and to hide people too! This is an example when perhaps we are a bit to connected...